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Parenting & Attachment Help Guide
Attachment is the deep and lasting connection established between a child and caregiver using nonverbal communication. While it’s easiest to form this attachment bond with your child in the first few years of life, it can be formed at any time. It profoundly affects your child’s development and his or her ability to express emotions and develop relationships in later life. A secure attachment bond sets the stage for emotional health throughout life, while an insecure attachment bond can lead to a lack of trust and self–worth, a fear of getting close to anyone, and anger and control issues.
As a parent, you naturally want the best for your child. But when it comes to promoting secure attachment, there's no such thing as a one–size–fits–all approach. Part of being a good parent is being flexible and creative, and learning to understand your child's unique cues. But some things are universal. All children need affection, encouragement, consistency, and limits. These are the basic building blocks that promote bonding and allow you to tackle any parenting challenges you face.
Bonding and secureattachment are rooted and flourish in the safety of an environment shaped by parents who have the skills to remain both calm and focused much of the time. Not all loving parents have these skills, but they can be learned. Helpguide’s Bring Your Life Into Balance Toolkit teaches parents the skills they need to create secure relationships with their infants and children.